Are You Depressed? Is There A Bottom To The Well?

December 31, 2009

Depression can fall into three categories: (1) Reactive, (2) Endogeneous, (3) Intrapsychic.
Most of the time, when depressed, people suffer from one of these types, however there are times when two and, for some people, all three can be present. The initial task of therapy is to sort this out as different approaches to healing are [...]

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Are You Lonely?

December 1, 2009

If we’re honest with ourselves we have to acknowledge that most of the time we spend on this earth we’re alone.  In this sense we all share being exiles in the universe.  The author Thomas Wolfe believes that loneliness, far from being a rare and curious phenomenon, is the central and inevitable fact of human [...]

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Holiday Blues

November 23, 2009

The holidays are coming and “consume-terror” is at its heights. If you’ll only buy your loved ones a stairmaster, a vacation to Lake Tahoe or a new computer you’ll have a Merry Christmas advertisements tell us, even if you can’t afford it. You better buy that “perfect” gift, otherwise you’re not with the program and [...]

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Domineering Personalities

November 8, 2009

Accepting Our Weaknesses Frees Our Strengths.
We’ve all been around power hungry individuals who try to manipulate marriages and families or places of work with tyrannical control. Unfortunately this behavior gets rewarded by many of our governmental and religious institutions as well as most corporations. I refer to these personalities as suffering from “General Manager [...]

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Anyone having an Affair?

October 24, 2009

No one can do our soul work for us and from mid-life on, soul work includes the search for meaning. Only when we stop expecting our spouses to bring meaning to our lives can we begin to tap our own potential. If our primary measures of self-worth and security depend solely on the affirmation and [...]

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“It’s A Joy To Be Hidden – But A Terror Not To Be Found”–Winnicott

September 27, 2009

Do you remember the thrill of playing hide and seek as a small child trying to find the darkest place where you could hide; left alone only with the excitement of your imagination? Do you also remember that after a period of aloneness you got more and more restless until you finally left your hiding [...]

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Understanding, Honesty, or Kindness

September 16, 2009

Mick & His Air Fiddle

Every full moon in August I meet up with an old friend south of Ensenada to camp at the edge of the ocean.  Mick Hamilton has settled down during his middle years, but was a total madman when we went to school together in the late sixties.  One psychology professor, who [...]

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Fathers and Sons

August 11, 2009

Here is what the German poet Rilke had to say:
Sometimes a man stands up after supper
and walks outdoors, and keeps on walking,
because of a church that stands somewhere in the East.
And his children say blessings on him as if he were dead.
And another man, who remains inside his own house,
Stays there, inside the dishes and [...]

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Do You Have a Steppenwolf Inside of You?

July 21, 2009

In my thirty-five years of practice in psychotherapy, never have I seen and experienced as much fear, anxiety, and emotional pain as I have in the last six months of 2008. The collective psychic atmosphere was dark, sinister and threatening. By the end of the year, I was exhausted bordering on depletion. I [...]

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Introduction

July 13, 2009

Some of my younger friends have been trying to get me to go online with a website and blog for a long time. I’ve resisted because I was content with the readership and response to my column in the local paper  – Ojai and Ventura View-. I’m also a bit phobic and judgmental about modern [...]

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