Reflections on Creativity

by Peter Milhado PHD on September 3, 2017

When we’re involved in a creative task, there is a sense of time. Being fully in the now is a blessing that keeps our soul alive, because in that moment we are in touch with the eternal, we hone into home.  Matisse said, “I believe in God when I’m working.”  The great mystic William Blake tells us when we’re creative ‘Satan’ (i.e. obsession, fear, frantic activity, judgement etc.) cannot intrude.  That is one of the reasons I request patients to consider creative tasks- be it writing, painting, music, sculpting, dance, poetry etc.  Another and equally important reason is in order to heal our wounds we have to be able to be still and reflect on our day.  Creativity invites us into contemplation, which is a rare commodity these days.  Slowing down and taking time allows soul to enter and that can change a life.  As our wounds reside deep inside of us, mostly in the unconscious, we have to find ways to travel down deep.  Outside of recording our nightly dreams there is no better way than through creative engagement.

Creativity brings meaning- meaninglessness brings illness.  Therefore, it becomes our responsibility to provide a hospitable environment for the creative ‘daemon’ who resides in all human beings, to show up.  No excuses will be tolerated when we hit our 40’…. otherwise there are grave consequences.  We have to be careful here not to romanticize creativity with too many lofty fantasies, and desires for exceptional achievement.  At bottom, creativity is soul work and an act of the imagination, as imagination is the home of the soul.  People who are stuck in a neurosis suffer from a failure of the flow of imagination.  Creativity is our main ally in living soulfully, making something for the soul of everyday experience heals…unquestionably.

The move away from power to love is real love and this involves immense suffering. (Marion Woodman)   Much creative work comes from that level. Where we share our suffering… sometimes just the sheer suffering of being human.  When our creative energy is blocked for long periods of time, it will find an outlet in some kind of distorted religion… an addiction, for example, can be a distorted religion.  Yet, when creativity flows and we become invested in nourishing and releasing our inner we are much less likely to dive into the refrigerator or the liquor cabinet.

For some people, depression is a catalyst for an onslaught of a creative wave.  For others, creativity can arise out of sexual interest and desire and for still others a spiritual crisis triggers off an inner directed creative journey.  We become the artists of our own lives.  Creativity becomes integrated into our daily rituals.  It’s a commitment and engagement to soul, which cannot be undone by failures or flashes of success.  Thomas Moore tells us that art is not the expression of talent- it’s about the preservation of soul.  Art captures the eternal in every day, it allows us to reflect on our daily experiences and therefore invites soul in.  Sometimes, when going to a museum or reading a good book we see more of our souls than through introspective analysis.  Writing a soulful letter to a friend can be a highly creative and healing experience.

The role of creativity in healing is profoundly under appreciated.  Many psychologists think of themselves as scientists who do not believe these is such a thing as soul, which is terribly ironic as psychology means ‘science of the soul’.

 A creative vision is always either a defeat or a willing surrender of the ego.  Creative work shows us there are bigger things going on in our universe than our egos.  There is a center much deeper and wiser in our psyches than our egos- if we can only sit still long enough and listen.   When therapy works best there is no agenda.  I listen to people’s unconscious, wait for instructions and let the unconscious prescribe.  Love to Mother Meera….One for all and all for one.

Love to Mother Meera. One for all and all for one.

Peter Milhado © 2017


Are You Afraid of Your Own Shadow?

by Peter Milhado PHD on August 2, 2017

In the darkness of anything external to me, I find an interior psychic life that is my own. (C.G. Jung)

One of the most painful and rewarding experiences in life is to unblinkingly look in the mirror and see who we really are, not who we would like to be.  There we truly stand alone; most people can’t do it.

Arrogance, greed, selfishness, grandiosity, possessiveness, vengeance envy, blame, and despotic control are easy to see in others, but if we cop to those characteristics within ourselves, where they undoubtedly also reside as our own ‘Shadow’,  we’re on the way to liberation from neurotic symptoms like anxiety, depression, digestive problems, obsessions, and addictions etc.  At bottom, neurosis is an ethical problem.  Doing the inner ‘Shadow Work’ is surely a painful and arduous task, but it is also a rite of passage, an initiation, which will eventually lead to unleashing our strength, our potential, our creativity, and most of all our soulfulness.

Most of us say that when I raise my children I’m not going to be like my parents, but unless I do the inner ‘Shadow Work’ I become exactly like them  or excessively the opposite.  The greatest problem belongs to those who refuse to look into the darkness of their own hearts, because these folks don’t have a ‘Shadow’, but the ‘Shadow’ has them.  Spare me from ‘nice guys’, ‘supermoms’, ‘religious purists’ and ‘do gooders’, they’re usually mean suckers.   The more we’re identified with our glorified and wonderful social roles (our personas), the more likely it is we become cold, cynical and even cruel.

People who are on a genuine inner path meet up with their ‘Shadow’ early on in their journey, any psychotherapy worth it’s salt takes up the ‘Shadow’ problem.  Underlying all bigotry and racism lies the ‘Shadow’, which when not owned and integrated gets projected onto other ethnic groups.  When Jung was asked at the end of his life if there was hope for humanity, he answered by saying only if enough individuals on this planet do the inner ‘Shadow work’.  One does not become enlightened by imaging figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.  The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular (C.G. Jung).

How do we recognize our inner ‘Shadow’?  Well, be brave, and ask your partner in life, he or she probably have the most information.  Other good sources can be your friends, children and co-workers.  If you run across a person who triggers strong feelings of dislike and disdain in you, there’s a good probability that their traits of being competitive or self-centered also reside to some degree within you.  As always, the continuous source of wisdom, our nighttime dreams, can be helpful.  Our own ‘Shadow’ personality tends to show up in dream as characters of the same sex.  If a man dreams about his father-in-law, who is known to use coercive power to get his way, he might be well advised to check out his own controlling ways.  Another clue might come from taking an inventory of our own history of anger.  Two unhealthy ways of dealing with anger is to either to repress and not own it or to express it in manipulation and explosive temper tantrums.  First comes hurt and then comes anger, we need to express them both.  If we do not deliver them directly, they show up as coldness, nagging, blame and brutality, not to mention ulcers and depressions.

There are two different kinds of suffering.  The first is the suffering imposed from the outside which all humans on this earth share.  All we can do here is to hold each other with compassion and love.  The second kind of suffering is the suffering we create ourselves, i.e. neurotic suffering.  The only way out of this condition is to take on the difficult and painful task of taking a look in the mirror and doing the inner ‘Shadow Work’.

The ‘Shadow’ can be very tricky.  He hides behind expertise as a demand to be above criticism.  Often an unswerving commitment to monogamy and marriage is a disguise for possessiveness, control and jealousy (Sheldon Kopp).  We blame spouses, partners and bosses for keeping us miserable.

We can only get to know our ‘Shadow’ one piece at a time.  We never know all of it, only what we are ready for.  If we don’t do the ‘Shadow Work’ a flattening of the personality sets in, we lose creativity, spontaneity and deeper emotions.  Life becomes shallow and spiritless.  If we do the inner work we become less judgmental towards others as well as ourselves.  We are liberated from both perfectionism and inadequacy.

Literary writers usually know more about the condition of the human soul than psychologists.  The great German poet Johann Wolfgang von Göthe said that he had never heard of a crime of which he did not believe himself capable.  Our soulful American playwright Arthur Miller put it this way in his play ‘After The Fall’,  “And the wish to kill is never killed, but with the gift of courage one may look into its face when it appears and with a stroke of love- as an idiot in the house- forgive it, again and again… forever.”

Love to Mother Meera. One for all and all for one.

Peter Milhado © 2017



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